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Most of us have seen an “AWESOME” resume - maybe yours - where something quickly caught the eye. Maybe it was just something cute…. your email address surfaced - one of those cute email addresses between friends, but a “should not use” on your new resume or cover letter. Yes, it happens to the best of job candidates who are left wondering why they got rejected or simply got no response from the employer.

Your potential employer failed to notice that you had so much to offer as a future employee. It was unimagineable — your awesome resume went into file 13 [better known as the “trash” can]. Not only your resume, the flawless cover letter too. Both were overflowing with superb credentials. Professional. Competitive. Eager to please. Educated. Trained.

Nothing!! No response. No consideration. Your resume and cover letter obviously went the way of file 13 - often known as the “round” file. Your mind is swirling in every direction with hundreds of thoughts filled with questions — always the BIG why? You’ve never been rejected before.

What happened? Maybe the employee remained in the job, decided to stay rather than going into their own business or leaving for other reasons that you don’t know about. At the very least, an employer could show some courtesy, let you know what happened rather than leave you wondering.

Let’s ask the BIGGER question - has this happened before? In the past you’ve sent an exceptional resume, great cover letter because you were the perfect fit…. everything was ‘right’…. but you still got the rejection letter, right? Maybe we need to dig a little deeper.

Are you a FUN guy? Gal? You never thought about it before. Your ‘cute’ email address - like “hotdish” or “sweetcheeks” or maybe “nicebuns”@hotmail.com - just maybe - caused the folks in HR [human-resources] to get a wrong message or thought about YOU and your email nickname.

Is that possible, in your case? Could you be turning OFF the hiring authority within the firm before getting to 1st base in the interview process? As we all know, little “flags” send out positive and/or negative vibs.

Some hiring authorities are NOT computer literate. Fearful, especially about attachments or anything coming from strangers -
you don’t want any SPAM complaints - but lots of emails get deleted before having a chance to get noticed. Be especially careful what YOU put into the subject line of your email to a prospective employer. It too can cause immediate rejection.

Simply recognize that all of us are not very savvy on the computer. Don’t try to impress anyone with your professional skills as an Internet GURU unless that’s the job being filled by the employer. If that’s the case, then show your stuff - let your IQ shine.

One thing to remember — it’s usually the “small” stuff that makes a difference. Write, talk in specifics, point out your exceptional ability - showcase your career path - it’s your job to sell yourself as the best candidate for the position.

What have YOU done? Don’t say, “responsible for” which tells a potential employer nothing…. employers like “sold 75 new accounts with a $10 mil. annual revenue stream in the first quarter”. Be industry specific if you’re a seasoned veteran with valuable knowledge and customer/client connections.

Don Monteith spent 32 years as co-owner of several franchises and a personnel/staffing business. Every year, his firm placed hundreds of job candidates in their dream job. Today, Don shares his business and career expertise through his newest websites on the Internet. Lots of FREE ideas - suggestions - ready for your perusal and study.

http://www.Career-Coaching-Central.com

http://www.HowToGetYourDreamJob.com

Do you have an ‘attitude of gratitude’? What is your first
inclination in any situation? Is it to find something to
appreciate, or something to criticize?

Many folks were raised with constant criticism. It seemed that
almost nothing they did was right or good enough. If they got a
good grade on a report card, the question was “Why didn’t you
get a better one?” That’s one way that parents control their
children, or, at least, think they do. If that was part of your
past, you may have to make a concerted effort to not pass that
along now. Focus on the positive. Catch others doing thing right
and say so!

You’ve probably heard the saying, ‘When life gives you lemons,
make lemonade.” What do you do when things do not seem to turn
out the way you want them to? Do you look for the learning in
the situation, and change your approach? That’s the best use of
energy on your part. Spend little time on the downsidejust
enough to understand the lesson–and move on.

Olympic athletes are remarkable in their ability to focus on
what went right and to see the best in their competition. When
they are interviewed they put no one down. Have you noticed
that? They speak of the good in their own performances and those
of others. We can learn a lot from these young folks. Look where
it gets them!

Focusing on the good is energy-giving. Remember, gratitude is
the attitude of altitude. Stand tall and appreciate all.

If you are applying for a job abroad (particularly in Europe or South America), a Motivation Letter For Work Abroad takes the place of a Cover Letter. Both resumes and Motivation Letters are much less formal than their United States equivalents. The Motivation Letter, as its name implies, tells your prospective employers why you are motivated to work for their companies. It gives you a chance to describe your personality, the languages you speak, any awards you may have won, and what motivates you to work abroad.

The Motivation Letter is constructed like a formal business letter, with your name and address in the top right corner. Beneath this and against the left margin should be the name, job title, company and address of the recipient. (It is worth doing a little digging to find out the name, if you don’t know it.) European countries don’t put a period after title abbreviations, so remember to leave them off ; i.e., “Mr” instead of “Mr.” and “Dr” rather than “Dr.”. Spell out the name of the month and use the order “day-month-year.”

The first paragraph of your Motivation Letter describes the job for which you are applying, and how you learned about it. The second paragraph should address your qualifications for the job; don’t just list them, talk about them. Show yourself to be a person of initiative and creativity ; in short, motivated! In the third paragraph, talk about why you want this particular job. What skills do you bring to it? What do you hope to learn? Finally, in the fourth paragraph give your contact information and times you are available for interview.

If you used the recipient’s name, close “Yours sincerely;” if you used “Dear Sir or Madam,” close “Yours faithfully.” Type your name four spaces down and two spaces under that, against the left margin, type “Enclosure.” Sign your name in the space above your typed name, attach a resume to your Motivation Letter For Work Abroad, and you’ve done it!

Motivation begins with you. Whether you are an employer of thousands or sitting in you room, struggling to get your day going. Motivation Letter for Work Abroad

As network marketers, we often have important information to impart and our role in doing so is a major one. Many, many times I have had the pleasure of having people approach me to say how hearing me speak literally changed their lives due to the powerful message and the persuasiveness of the delivery. Most people in MLM are not trained presenters or salespersons but there are a few steps everyone can take to make sure their message has the best possible chance of being well received. Here are my top tips:

1. KNOW YOUR AUDIENCE: Not every pitch will work for everyone so before you go to present the products or the business, whether it’s to just one person or to many, do a little research to ensure you’re presenting at the appropriate level. If your presentation is too lightweight, you’ll bore them; too in depth, you’ll confuse them. Either way, they will switch off and your vital words will fall on deaf ears.

2. WIIFM: Yes, that old chestnut, but it’s worth repeating as it’s so often forgotten. Bearing in mind tip no. 1, what are the challenges faced by this person or this group of people? How does your business opportunity or your product solve their problems? Focus on answering these questions rather than trotting out the mechanics of your offering. Your audience must feel you’ve prepared your presentation specially for them, even if it’s essentially the same one you’re giving all the time.

3. CONTINUALLY LEARN AND PRACTICE PRESENTING: One of the most important skills any network marketer can hone is that of becoming an accomplished speaker. It impacts so many other areas of your life as it massively increases your self-confidence. The more professionally you can deliver your message, the more readily it will be received, the more lives you will touch and the more money you will make in your business. Learning to present well is an investment in yourself and can give you the greatest return on the capital you’ve invested.

4. HANDLE DISSENTERS WELL: One of the major fears I hear from network marketers is that of being faced with doubting prospects or those who dispute what they’re being told. Unfortunately, the tendency is to dig in and fight your corner but this can turn the discussion into an argument and work against you, especially if you’re giving a presentation in front of a group. When you’re faced with negativity, always start your answer with “That’s a very good question…” and continue with your viewpoint. Wherever possible, turn things around to make your audience right. Download a free “one-sheet crib sheet” on this important subject at http://www.laddersofsuccess.com.

5. SHOW, DON’T TELL: Show the products you’re talking about. Let people feel, smell and see for themselves instead of just hearing what they are like. If you’re making a presentation about the business opportunity, remember that your company has probably done a lot to make things easier for you. Make sure you get the prospecting materials they offer, show the pictures of the top distributors, talk about them as if they are real people .

6. LET YOUR GUARD DOWN: People buy from those they know, like and trust. How can they do any of this if you won’t let them get to know the real you. You don’t have to be perfect, you can talk about your own challenges, beliefs, family, hopes and dreams. Doing so gives your prospects more opportunity to identify with you so you can use the similarities to build rapport.

7. STORIES INSTEAD OF FACTS: When we get excited about our products, we often delve into the features of the products, what works and why. This is all very exciting once you’ve had your first wonderful product experience, but it doesn’t make for a very exciting lead-in to your presentation. People want to know about results. They want the bottom line. There’s plenty of time to get to the detail later but to start this way could send most of your prospects to sleep (apart from the professors in the audience, of course). The best way to illustrate what your products or business opportunity can do is through telling stories. Use your own story or a case study of someone you know. Use emotive words. Remember, not just the facts, the feelings too.

8. MAKE ‘EM LAUGH: When people laugh they feel more relaxed and amenable. Every situation has a humorous side and if you’re telling a tragic story your prospects will welcome the respite that comes with a moment of levity. The golden rule is to move people: make ‘em laugh, make ‘em cry, then they buy. This is something I aim to do in every presentation because it means I’ve moved my audience emotionally. I appreciate this is an advanced technique, but if you learn how to do it, you’ll increase your success rate exponentially.

9. DON’T TELL - ASK: Instead of telling your prospects everything, get them answering questions. Rather than saying “Did you know that only 1% of people retire financially free?”, ask them “What percentage of people do you think retire financially free?”. This gets your prospects involved and if you word your questions correctly, you’re coaching them to the purchase decision rather than having to push them into buying. This is a technique I teach that I’ve perfected over the years. It works great for network marketers and women and I call it “pull selling”.

10. GIVE A REASON TO ACT NOW: Again, not being salespersons, many network marketers give a great presentation and then wimp out without asking for the order. Your prospect’s motivation will never be higher than it is at that moment so make sure you use this to your advantage. Think of reasons why they should place their order today. Some possible reasons might be because you are offering a special bonus OR prices are about to increase OR there’s an order deadline coming up so they’ll get their goods sooner OR you’re placing an order too so they’ll save on the postage OR you’re offering a discount on orders placed today OR you’re seeing someone else who could become a distributor and will go beneath them. Whatever it is, tell them, and secure the sale.

Maria Davies, Ladders of Success Ltd, is a network marketer and a Professional Sales Presenter and Presentations Coach. She trains others to overcome their public speaking fears and use presentation skills to increase the audience share for their product or service by around 91%. Find out more about forthcoming seminars, worldwide e-trainings or speaker bookings at http://www.laddersofsuccess.com

Many mistakes can be made in business and if you are able to avoid some of them by reading and taking note of these warnings, then the time taken to put these together will be worth while. Here are some business mistakes that are common to many entrepreneurs..

1. No plan
   Many people go into business without any plan at all. The old saying that “if you don’t have a plan you won’t know when you’ve got there” still holds true today. You need to set up a business plan and that plan will contain other subsidiary plans such as a marketing plan, a finance plan, a sales plan, etc.
2. Be flexible
   If you have a business idea and you are looking at developing that into your business, then be prepared to change and be flexible. Sometimes the original idea needs some fine-tuning before it becomes commercially viable and profitable for you. By all means stay with your dreams, vision and ideas, but be flexible and allow yourself the luxury of discussing those ideas with professional advisers, as well as those who have already done it before.
3. Make sure you know your customers
   Every business must have customers. If you don’t have customers you won’t have sales. If you don’t have sales, you won’t have profits. If you don’t have profits you won’t have a business. Make sure you are aware of your customers as well as your competitors. You need to know your customer’s preferences, as to the services you can provide. Unless you know your customers well, it is difficult for you to know what to supply.

   You need to know what their requirements are. You need to find a bit more about their buying patterns and you need to be aware of your competitors so they don’t take your customers away from you. Also provide good customer service. The short answer to customers is, work hard to get them and when you’ve got them, keep them by providing quality products, service and good support so they won’t consider going anywhere else.

4. Watch your cash
   Ensure your cash position at all times allows you to make decisions and pay for the requirements of the business. The saying that “cash is king” still holds true today because if you run out of cash your business will come to a “screaming halt”. You always need to maintain sufficient cash in reserve to meet emergencies and to pay staff and to pay for goods and services.

   This means that the fact you have a lot of stock in the warehouse or a lot of equipment or other assets, does not guarantee you will not fail. If you don’t have cash you will definitely fail because most people don’t’ look kindly on being paid for their goods and services with your stock or plant or equipment. People want cash.

5. Work with good staff
   Make sure you employ good people. Motivate and train them so they are happy in their work. The result will be increased productivity and work satisfaction. Be patient and persistent, and insist on a high standard of work from your staff. Motivate, encourage and coach if necessary, as well as pat them on the back when that’s needed. Some psychologists go so far as to recommend that the staff need a cuddle now and then, but that is probably going a bit overboard!

   Make sure you have good morale in your workplace, because that will result in high productivity and high profits for the business. If the business is doing well, ensure that the staff know about it and praise them for it. The best confirmation of your satisfaction with your staff will be when you share some of that increased profit with them by way of bonuses and other benefits.

6. Always seek advice
   Listen to good advice. The person who thinks they know everything is headed for disaster. Being a lone ranger does not entitle you to a medal and you will find most people are prepared to talk and help you if you ask. Also be aware of the fact that you cannot do everything yourself, based on the knowledge you have. Others also have expertise and something that takes them five minutes to explain could take you a couple of days to figure out on your own.
7. Be realistic
   If you are in business, you need to live in the real world. You need to watch your business performance. Control your expenses. Look at ways of increasing your income. Continually monitor how the business is going and how the staff are performing. Have a reserve of cash in the bank for a rainy day and plan ahead all the time, rather than waiting for disaster to happen.

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It’s a very tempting thing to simply download a ready-made resume and plug in your details. What’s the harm? That’s what a template is for, after all: to make things easier.

This is both true and not.

There are distinct advantages to using a resume template, just as there are distinct disadvantages. Here, we will outline them so you may decide what is best for you.

Advantages:

To begin, a resume template is–above all things–simple. Whether you find them online or in a book, you can easily see how to create a resume. By copying it down, you can just put in your details and fill in the blanks. This can cut down on the confusion often associated with creating a resume, and make the focus less about learning the rules and more about completing the project.

Also, resume templates offer a variety of choices and styles. Typically, the Chronological or the Functional format are used; however, templates can cover a broader range and give you more selection. In some cases, your background may not seem suited to the more popular styles, so you can use a better choice.

Resume templates also insure correctness. Rather than trying to guess at how large a font should be or where the best place to out a detail is, templates will give you examples. This can help you stop making those little mistakes that ruin your chances with future employers. A template shows you the proper formatting and style.

Disadvantages:

You may think, from the above section, that resume templates have no faults. This is not correct. Some people have the misfortune of relying solely of templates. Because of this, they try to comply with every section and detail provided. This does not always work. Resume templates are guides, but some see them as law. If there is an area provided, they will fill it–even when they have no details to fill it with. This, of course, creates a problem. Potential employers will be confused by your providing information that does not apply to your history, or even to the position.

Also, resume templates offer many choices for style. While this can be an advantage–as explained earlier–it can also be a problem. Most employers prefer the Chronological or Functional format. If you present them with a little-known style, they may not understand it. This can cause your resume to be thrown out. Do not be too impressed with the possibilities. Your resume should be functional and, if you choose a style because it looks the
best or requires minimal effort, you can ruin your chances.

Keeping those problems in mind will help you best use a resume template. Do not try to comply with every section they describe for, while it may be correct in certain situations, it may not in yours. Instead, view templates as general guidelines. They do offer the correct formatting and style, but they may offer you the incorrect choice for your resume.

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Quieting a barking dog is a quick and easy process. Really. It
also doesn’t cost any money. But it’s not an obvious process -
witness the many dogs barking all the time in parks, backyards
on street corners, with their owners tugging at their leash and
yelling at them and the dogs completely ignoring their commands.
My dog was driving me crazy until I learned how to stop his
barking.

My dog barked and whined all the time, and it was a breed
(husky), that was known for making a lot of noise. The situation
was especially bad when the doorbell rang or he saw strangers.
It was almost impossible to stop him once he started, and if
there was another dog involved, forget it - my dog would yap his
head off until the dogs were separated and out of sight.

One weekend, though, my friend came over to visit. She worked at
the Chicago Zoo and knew animals better than anyone I had ever
seen. In an hour she had my dog completely quiet, and she taught
me how to do it, too. One hour to solve a problem that was
driving me crazy for the last three years!

The secret is not intuitive. First you teach the dog to bark(!)
I thought my friend was insane when she told me this. Obviously
my dog knew how to bark because he barked and whined all the
time. But she explained that while my dog barked a lot, he
couldn’t bark on command. First she taught him to bark on
command, and then she taught him to be quiet on command. The
whole process took less than an hour. My dog is pretty smart, so
it may take your dog longer, but still, it’s an incredibly
effective technique, and now, two years later, my dog still
doesn’t give me trouble. What a great afternoon!

There are two elements at work here: positive reinforcement and
intermittent reinforcement. Positive reinforcement teaches the
behavior, and intermittent reinforcement keeps the behavior
permanent. Negative reinforcement is just not a strong inducer
of behavior. Negative reinforcement like shock collars or saying
“No” does work to a certain extent, but studies have shown it to
be about 10 times less effective than positive reinforcement.
Everything she did was very clear and precise, which was much of
the reason she got her results so quickly. Your results may
vary, but the clearer and more precise you can make everything,
the better. First, go on a long walk with your dog to get him a
lot of exercise. Your dog can’t learn when he’s all riled up.

Teaching your dog to bark: Then get a box of treats. Then look
at your dog. When he barks, immediately praise him and give him
a treat. Don’t let any time elapse between the bark and the
treat. Pretty soon he’ll be barking a lot. Right now, the
behavior is coming before the cue. Shape the behavior first, and
then add your cue.

Teaching your dog to bark on command: Then go away for a few
minutes and come back. Ignore his barking and ignore everything
else he does. Just stand there, doing nothing, not rewarding him
at all, not even looking at him. It may take a long time, but
eventually your dog will calm down, stop barking, and start
doing his own thing. Once your dog calms down and stops barking,
start working with him again. This time, only give him a treat
when you say “Speak” and point at him, and then he barks. 1.
Verbal command and point. 2. Bark. 3. Reward. Don’t give him a
treat for just barking on his own. This part will take a while,
but he will eventually understand the command. You’re rewarding
him for behavior he already is predisposed to do, you’re just
associating a command with it. Teaching your dog to be quiet: Go
away for a few minutes, and then come back. He’ll probably be
barking a lot when you come back, but again, stay totally still
and don’t reward him at all (no praising, no eye contact,
nothing). Once he stops barking, count to five slowly to
yourself. You may have to wait a long time before he’ll stop
barking enough so a full count of five, but it will happen
eventually. Once you can count to five without any barking, then
reward him with praise and a treat. Notice that at this point,
the behavior comes before the cue. Shape the behavior first, and
then add your cue.

Teaching your dog to be quiet on demand: Keep that up for a
while until the behavior sinks in, and then add the command.
When he’s not barking, hold up your hand as if you’re signaling
someone to stop, and say the command “Quiet”. If he’s quiet,
then give him a treat and praise. So the order is 1. Verbal
command and hand signal. 2. Dog is quiet. 3. Reward. Soon your
dog will know how to be quiet on demand.

After a while, the treats won’t be necessary, and even verbal
praise won’t be necessary every time. The praise at irregular
intervals is the intermittent reinforcement part of the picture,
and is very powerful. Intermittent reinforcement works better
than if you reward behavior every single time.

Soon you’ll have a dog that will go totally quiet when you tell
him to!

Any or all of this article may be copied or used for any reason,
but there must be a link to my site “What Type of Little Dog
Should I Get” - http://littledogonline.com - HTML is What Type of Little Dog Should I
Get

This is probably the most common question I encounter when I meet people that have not previously used a Certified Professional Resume Writer. They are amazed that there is actually a service that can help them with writing their resumes. The easiest way to answer this question is by telling you what I discovered when I was recruiting in the biotech and pharmaceutical industry. I looked at literally hundreds of resumes every single day (at least 500 per week), and maybe- just maybe- one or two were very well written. Come to think of it, those were probably written by professional resume writers. The rest of the resumes could be put into two categories: mediocre (the majority of resumes fall here) and terrible (fewer resumes fall in this group).

Now, I know there are a lot of people that copy their resumes from resume books, or copy their friend’s resume format, and hope that will suffice. And sometimes, it should be fine. So when should you use a Certified Professional Resume Writer? At what point in life does it become worth it to leave resume writing up to the experts? Let me put it this way. I have a great background in anatomy, and I choose not to do surgery on myself. I leave that up to a pro. Nor do I change the oil in my car, because I can have a pro do it. Now, if for some reason financially it does not make sense to have your resume written by a professional (remember that they can be tax deductible), and you have a lot of time to read books, pour through plenty of examples, are capable of critiquing your work history from a hiring manager’s perspective, have experience proofreading, and have a great command of the English language, then you are a wonderful candidate for writing your own resume.

Realistically, for a Certified Professional Resume Writer to write your resume, it takes a minimum of 2 hours (for the most basic, “just graduated from college” resume). It can take well over 12 hours for higher level resumes. And this is for a professional resume writer, who does this day in and day out. Let me tell you what resume writers do: they scour through every accomplishment you ever made, they become private investigative to make sure all your dates add up and that school names / departments are still valid, they tailor your background to the exact job you are applying for, and they let you know where your weaknesses are (ouch). They also tell you where your strengths are, what to highlight, what to lowlight, what to totally drop from your resume, what the resume rules are, what the correct English should be, what needs proofreading again, and which way the watermark goes. The rules are endless in resumes, and professionals know them all. So if it takes that amount of time for a professional to write a resume, think of the time it should take the regular, job seeking person out there. And the problem is I think most people lose interest in their resume right about the time they have a few pages that “sort of” sum up their background.

So in essence, people that have their resumes written by a Certified Professional Resume Writer have an edge over people that do not. Here is an example: If you are applying for a job, you are not simply one person applying to one job slot. You are competing against 10 other people that all saw the same job ad on the same day. If your resume is not as good as what your competition has (it does not matter if you are the best qualified or not), then a hiring manager will not give you a call. If your competition is using a Certified Professional Resume Writer, and you wrote your own resume, then your competition has a leg up on you. So, should you write your own resume? Yes, of course you can. But realistically, you can save yourself time, money (remember, time = money, and resumes can be tax write-offs, so talk with you tax advisor), and quite a headache if you go to a Certified Professional Resume Writer.

Laura Innis Yaldo
http://www.apexresumes.com/

Question for singles: ——————— What do you do with
your occasional feelings of loneliness, frustration with dating,
perhaps frustration with yourself and/or the opposite sex? Do
these feelings and thoughts run around and around in your head,
interfering with your ability to think clearly, causing more
frustration? Read below to learn how to get these thoughts and
feelings out so you can have a more peaceful, more enjoyable
life.

Question for people in relationships:
————————————- What do you do when you
are frustrated with your partner, or want to have a serious
conversation with him or her? Do you turn the words over and
over in your head? Do you try to talk to your partner while full
of intense feelings and have the conversation turn into an
argument? Read below to learn how to be clear and calm when you
talk to your partner.

Journaling is different than keeping a diary, as you may have
done as a child. It is not writing about your activities to
create a daily or a weekly record. It is not writing for the
sake of just writing your thoughts. It is writing that
transforms.

Journaling may seem overly simplistic. So much so that many of
you — while reading this article and thinking it’s a good idea
– will actually never pick up the pen and write, simply because
you think it couldn’t possibly do any good.

However, when done right, journaling allows you to freely
express your feelings and thoughts and gives you a much needed,
safe outlet. And believe it or not, when you have an outlet,
feelings and circumstances becomes much easier to deal with and
solutions emerge where once there were none.

Here is how to have an effective, powerful journaling session:

1. Pick up your journal, which can be a notebook, a sheet of
paper, or a journal - anything will work.

2. Set aside a bit of time when you will not be disturbed and
where you are granted privacy. I have known people who journal
in their car or in the bathroom. Be creative.

3. Decide on a topic - how you feel about being single, how you
feel today in general, how you feel about a situation in your
relationship, what you want to say to a certain someone, etc.

Here are some additional tips to help you choose a topic:

** Describe an issue or a problem in great detail. Then write
about where the issue comes from, what you think and feel about
it, what your life is like because of it and how your life would
be different if it were solved.

** Dialogue with yourself to resolve the issue. Write down all
of your thoughts. Then write down all of your feelings,
describing both in great detail.

** Pretend the person or people you need to communicate with are
in front of you. Write down everything you want to say to them,
including your thoughts, feelings, rationale, etc.

4. Start writing - don’t worry about how the writing looks,
whether it is legible or not, whether it makes sense, whether
you are staying on topic, etc. Just let words, thoughts,
feelings flow out of you.

5. Write until your time is up, if you had set a time limit, or
until you feel like you are done.

6. Reflect on any conclusions, thoughts, observations, decisions
that came out of your writing. Don’t worry if nothing but a
feeling of completeness comes out of the writing.

7. Repeat as necessary. For best results, journal daily, or at
least every few days.

The following are situations in which journaling can be
extremely advantageous:

1. In the morning Write to get clear about your intentions for
the day, your feelings, your thoughts, and your wants.

2. When you feel frustrated or afraid If you are frustrated with
being single or afraid you’ll never attract your ideal
relationship, write about your feelings. If you are in a
relationship, write about your fears and desires.

3. When you want a breakthrough or an internal shift Writing is
one of the more potent tools to use when you want to put an end
to a behavior or a thought pattern.

4. When you feel angry or unheard in any relationship Write when
you have feelings that are too strong to express to another
person. When you write about your feeling and thoughts first,
you will be able to have a much more productive conversation
later.

5. When you don’t know what or why you feel Writing is a great
way to find clarity about your feelings and to make sense of any
situation.

6. When you feel “full” Write when you feel full and
discontented for no apparent reason. By putting down your
thoughts and emotions, you will create space and perspective
inside.

Writing in a journal is a powerful tool for both surviving
singlehood and it’s frustrations as well as having a healthy,
thriving relationship. When you begin using a journal as a tool
for personal development, you will quickly notice a profound
affect on your life. You’ll become more focused, more aware, and
definitely more clear — all of which makes you incredibly
attractive to others.

Happy Journaling!

Your Relationship Coach, Rinatta Paries www.WhatItTakes.com

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